Our Conversations Invent Us

“Our conversations invent us.  Through our speech and our silence, we become smaller or larger selves. Through our speech and our silence, we diminish or enhance the other person, and we narrow or expand the possibilities between us.  How we use our voice determines the quality of our relationships, who we are in the world, and what the world can be and might become.  Clearly, a lot is at stake here”. — Harriet Lerner, The Dance of Connection